Dating your friend with benefits
While the first pattern underlies friendship, the second underlies sexual relationships.
Research shows that men appear to focus more on the benefits and women more on the friendship.
What underlies this attraction and is it a relationship that is beneficial? The complex emotional experience of romantic love involves two basic evaluative patterns (a) praiseworthiness--positive appraisal of personal characteristics, and (b) attractiveness--an attraction to external appearance.
If we could just say no to this relationship We could be best friends with benefits (Randy Rogers) The relationship of friendship with (sexual) benefits has become increasingly popular.
When there are no restrictions on a person's sexual (and other) behavior, there is no place for making normative inquiries concerning this behavior.
The policy of "no questions asked" applies only to the benefits of a "friendship-plus," but not to its friendship component.